Opinion essay

Family break up harms children more than rowing parents

       Every year many families around the world break up. Different conflicts that appear in the families in the majority of cases lead to the divorce. In my opinion, children are the greatest victims in such situations.

      Of course, children suffer when their parents are in conflict, but I’m convinced that they suffer much more if the family breaks up. A series of disruptions and changes in the family seems to be not so cruel as the parting. When a child sees the rowing parents, he or she may dream of one day when the situation will be cleared up and everything will turn to the better. The most important thing for them, to my mind, is that the parents remain together and the family is intact.

       Furthermore, a child who lives with both parents is more 'prestigious' among the other children than that with only one. It is my view that children whose families had broken up are more likely to suffer from low-esteem, difficulties with friends or at school. It strikes me that parents don’t realize that while they may have problems with each other, children often have good relationships with both parents and they lose that when the family splits up.

      On the other hand, children who live in the families with difficult rows and conflicts also may have some health, educational and social difficulties. Regular cries always keep children in tension and they appear to be involuntary witnesses of different situations and talks instead of being off out of such relationships. I believe that in such cases a child’s burning desire is to live a quiet life – with both parents or just one of them.

    To sum it up, I definitely think that whatever the situation parents should think, first of all, about their children, defending their interests and taking into account their desires. One should remember that to build something new is always much more difficult than to destroy something old and nobody knows whether the new will be the better.